EMOTION is defined like that in the dictionary:
a : the affective aspect of consciousness: feeling
b : a state of feeling,
c : a conscious mental reaction (such as anger or fear) subjectively experienced as strong feeling usually directed toward a specific object and typically accompanied by physiological and behavioural changes in the body.
Every human being has and rights to express emotions.
Emotions move us. Emotions are messengers with information. Emotions are tools to empathic communication in life and workplace.
Emotions wait at our door until we express them. (Even we think, we suppressed and it is under control.) JOY, SATISFACTION, DISSATISFACTION, ANGER, HATRED, JEALOUSY. If we do not allow ourselves to express emotions, emotions find ways to express themselves and that time we will find ourselves and situation is out of control.
If we do not process our emotions our children will. Or we might be a by-product of our parent’s unexpressed emotions.
Our emotional life works best if we only express our own emotions and not someone else’s.
“If my pain is too great I can’t empathize. So, I might say, “I’m in so much pain right now hearing some things you’ve said, I’m not able to listen.” Marshall Rosenberg
So that giving permission to ourselves to express our OWN EMOTIONS creates peace, connection, self-confidence, compassion, meaning, resilience and authenticity. Will you give permission to express your emotions with these words?:
So give yourself permission to express your emotion with these words when you feel it, where you feel it. Even only to yourself.
“Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don’t have to like it… it’s just easier if you do.”
― Byron Katie
If you need to improve your emotional vocabulary and express genuinely, I highly recommend you to read these books:
1- Non-violent Communication- Language of Life- Marshall Rosenberg
2- Loving What Is: How Four Questions Can Change Your Life– Byron Katie
3- Being Me, Loving You- Marshall Rosenberg
4- Words That Work in Business- Ike Lasater
5- Emotional Intelligence –Daniell Goleman
Do not forget; “Intellectual understanding blocks empathy.” Marshall Rosenberg. Let yourself open to yourself by allowing to feel.
“We need empathy to give empathy. When we sense ourselves being defensive or unable to empathize, we need to (a) stop, breathe, give ourselves empathy,
(b) scream nonviolently,
or (c) take time out.” Marshall B. Rosenberg
Change your communication language, change your life!
I hope you enjoy reading this article, please share what you think and how you feel about expressing your own emotions.
Transformational Leadership Coach
For meaningful life & business